As an update to the last post...

I just talked to John and things are better. He's decided he doesn't have to be an asshole if it means losing me, and promises that he overreacted out of surprise and defensiveness the other day. I don't know; I'm still wary, but at least I know what he's thinking now. So I've gone from terrible hurt to angry, and am now reaching the "whatever" stage in that it's possible right now he's more trouble than he's worth.